You know growing up and into adult hood if I was your friend I was your friend for life. I believed that it was a forever thing. So because I believes that so much if seasons changed and people left for whatever reason I was devastated.
I began to take each relationship as a sign of failure.
I so longed for that one person who would always be there for me. I depended on that for my strength and identity. And each time I found my "best friend" things seemed to change. Someone moved away or there was a difference in the direction our lives headed and we grew apart.
Then I got married and this was going to be that never leave me relationship. Failed marriage and relationships later I found myself alone.
My two favorite relationships in the bible are David and Jonathan and Ruth and Naomi. Jonathan loved David so much he went against his own father the king to protect David.
Ruth 1:16 NIV)
But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.
I wanted that kind of loyalty. Someone who believed in me and me in them. Well my problem was I wasn't looking to God to be that person. I put all my pressure on someone else to make me secure and make me happy. If my plans or dreams failed it was well my parents didn't believe in me or my husband didn't support me. Never did I take on the roll of victor n throw off the victim or Take on Phil 4:13 that says I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME.
The truth is people will fail us, not because they even mean to but because they are human. There are also people who leave us by death. If we have our security and identity in them, even our spouse , What happens if they go on to heaven before us? If Momma Jo would have had her identity in Jeff there would not be a ministry here today. When he left she grieved but because she let God be her everything she continued on with the vision. Now Gods taken her further than she ever imagined or hoped in her wildest dreams.
There are deep hurts that some of us have carried from out childhood and from adults from family, friends and spouses. We felt abandoned, betrayed and discarded. I want you to know that God never left your side in those moments.
If the failed relationship was on our part we are forgiven and we have to forgive our selves if it was someone walked out on you or didn't support you in a time you needed them the most the best thing you can do about tomorrow is forgive the yesterday's and move on with the great things God has for you.
We have to learn that there are seasonal people and let them go, there are people that disobey God and walk out on us and all we can do is grab onto God because He won't let go.
(1 Peter 1:24, 25 NIV)
For, “All people are like grass, and all their glory is like the flowers of the field; the grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of the Lord endures forever.” And this is the word that was preached to you.
Today I want you to ask God if you are holding on to anyone that has hurt you and walked out on you and then I want you to release them with His help. Forgive them and ask Him to surround you with people that celebrate you not tolerate you.
He has our Ruth's and Jonathan's out there He has a husband or wife out there. But we have to be whole in Him and identify in and with Him so we can be the Ruth's and Jonathan's to them.
In your process know that God never leaves us or forsakes us.
(Proverbs 18:24 NIV)
One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
So hold onto this friend we have in Jesus because He always has your back.
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